Getting Your Hopes Up In Life, Is It Wrong? - My Thoughts

Oh, I am the Queen of getting her hopes up. Hand me my crown and be done with it. Many a time, I have got my hopes up for all different reasons. Health reasons, job reasons, relationship reasons and even getting my hopes up about male potential suitors. I think getting your hopes up in life is common for anyone who has a positive mindset. Even though I am a realist, I still like to think positively in my life. 

Getting your hopes up in life could mean that you have no control over your emotions. 

I can definitely see why. I'm someone who can let their emotions get the better of her. Regardless of anger, upset or excitement, I'm a woman that wears my heart on my sleeve. So getting my hopes up in life has meant a tiny bit of heartache for me. 

We're all told when we're kids to believe. To strive for our dreams and goals. No one teaches you how far you can fall if it goes tits up. Also, nobody teaches you how to overcome that fall and move on.

Over time, I've found myself limiting my hopes and expectations to avoid getting hurt. That feeling of hurt when I've got my hopes up is heartbreaking. It makes me feel like a failure and then that has a knock-on effect on my self-confidence. However, I plan to change the way I go about this. 

If getting your hopes up means getting hurt, why not think of it this way - rather than hurting over it, embrace it? Embrace not getting what I wanted. Maybe look at it that it wasn't meant to be and that there's something better for me ahead.

For example, perhaps you've got your hopes of dating a special someone/crush (something I've gone through myself) and it hasn't happened. Now that is a heartbreaking situation to find yourself in, I know full well. Look at it this way, maybe he/she wasn't meant for you. Maybe he/she wasn't right or worthy of your love. This may sound like a Cinderella-style fairytale to you all, but it's true.

Getting your hopes up is, for me personally, a good and bad thing. 

You may be setting yourself up for a fall, but when you really want something, you'll do anything to get it. And when you do achieve that goal, that feeling of exhilaration and satisfaction you'll feel will be worth it. 

The worst kind of thing to happen is someone misleading you to get your hopes up. It's cruel and very callous of that person to mislead you to believe that something good will happen to you when they know it won't. If that has happened to you, I hope you have learned to read and recognise the signs of when someone is doing that. Many people have misled me into this in the past and it's awful. I hope it never happens to you guys!

So, getting your hopes up - is it ok to do that? My answer is yes. 

I know I've said that I have limited getting my hopes up over things to avoid disappointment. But that feeling of knowing it's actually going to happen is just wonderful and the confidence it gives you is unreal. It's kind of like manifestation - if you believe it will happen, it will - as long as you have that strong belief. 

Are you someone who is hopeful? I'd love to know your thoughts!