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11 May 2019

Yes, There Is Such A Thing As A Mid Mid-Life Crisis!

Mid Mid-Life Crisis
Definition - a series of life changing events that occur around 25-30 years of age.

Before we start, IT'S MA BIRTHDAY! Happy Birthday to little old me!


I turned 25 last year and had a meltdown. I'm turning 26 today and I'm now feeling the same emotions as I did this time last year. Possibly even worse. It has also dawned on me that I'm closer to the age of 30 rather than 20. Dear God.



So yes, I am currently going through a mid mid-life crisis. They do exist, whether you experience it or not is another matter. If you feel like you're experiencing it at the moment, you're not alone, honestly. I have gone into official panic mode with mine. I'm re-assessing every aspect of my life and whether I have achieved everything I hoped I would my this age. That has really hurt my brain, I can tell you.

During my childhood, I had so many expectations about what I will do when I was a 'grown up'.

When I was young, I dreamt I would have the complete Barbie lifestyle by the time I turned into an adult. I wanted to live in a mansion house, I would even cut out pictures of furniture out of the Argos catalogue and design my perfect house, the sort you would see on Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. I imagined I would drive around in a convertible around speed around town like I was some Formula One driver. I thought I would find my Prince Charming and live happily ever after like all those Disney princesses did.




So, fast forwarding to 20 or so odd years later, what expectations did I achieve? Fuck all. I do not live in a mansion like the one I designed on an A3 piece of paper. I do not own a flash car (well, I do love the car I own right now) and unfortunately I have kissed WAY too many frogs, that doesn't make me sound too good, does it? It's very much an anti climax.


I thought that by the time I would reach my adult years, I thought I would have all my shit sorted and I'd be living the best life I aimed for growing up. Holy moly how wrong was I? I haven't barely moved any further in my life than I did when I entered my twenties 6 years ago. That's probably the most melancholy sentence I'll ever write on my blog.


Those pressures I thought would ease off by the time I've reached this age are still there. I think sometimes I feel a lot of pressure to catch up to my family and friends. They all seem to have their shit together and I'm just that someone who plays gooseberry and sits in the pub with all the couples like a spare part.


My cousins have their lives sorted, my friends are all dating someone or living with them. Then there's me. Still living at home, in a job where the money is beyond manageable to live on, I have a cat who has barely any teeth, I haven't been abroad in 13 years, I have a life threatening illness, I want a new career, I need - ok, let's stop there before I get really depressed and will want to reach for the Doritos (well, there's nothing wrong with that really).



Now, I'm here to tell you lovely people who haven't reached this lovely mid twenties stage in your life - things in your life don't always happen sequentially. The order you had your life planned out on a piece of paper on your desk in school? PAHAHA! I'd just chuck it in the bin now and rethink things a little. Life isn't a fairytale story, it can suck - BIG TIME. Being an adult is far harder than you'll ever think it will be.


As a child, I dreamt of being a 'grown up' , nowadays I dream of going back to the innocent and naΓ―ve days of my childhood. There's such a prophetic irony here.





Are you suffering from a mid mid-life crisis? Let me know your thoughts!
 
 
Lucy


32 comments:

  1. I 100% get you with this post. my life is nothing like what I imagined it would be, and I'm slowly leaning that thats ok. I'm making it up as I go along but the exciting thing is, who knows what is going to happen next?!

    xoxo
    Jess
    The Crown Wings | UK Travel & Lifestyle Blog

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    1. That’s a great way of thinking Jess! xx

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  2. First thing's first, HAPPY BIRTHDAY LUCY!

    But OMG I have been feeling this so much lately, and it started hitting me when I turned 25 in October last year. I still live at home as well, I've only dated long distance (and guys nearby frustrate me), and I'm JUST now actually starting to do what I've wanted to do for years (depression and anxiety held me back for a long time). The mid-life crisis is SO real; I didn't think it would hit me until I was at least in my 30s, but I've been feeling just about everything you mentioned here since I turned 25.

    It also kind of hit me the other day when I was taking some survey online, and I was in the next age category when they have you choose your age group (18-24, 25-30-something.. etc); seems silly but... still haha.

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    1. Haha I know! I hate that I have to tick the next age box down, it depresses me a bit! I'm glad you could relate to this post Katherine! xx

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  3. Happy birthday! I know exactly how this feels, I turn 30 this year but I've been having this panic for at least five years now! I am nowhere near getting my shit together and though I have a fair few friends settled down , I also have some that are in the exact same position as me which helps me realize I'm not alone. There's definitely so much pressure on our geneation around this age! x

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    1. Absolutely Louise! It’s good to have people around you who are in the same boat! x

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  4. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I'm 26 next month and I have a baby, some people think that would be "having your life together" but I wing it everyday. I think everyone looks at everyone else and think why are you so together or why do you know what you are doing?! but in reality we are just making it up as we go along.

    Katie xx
    Www.katienor.com

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    1. I completely agree Katie, I think we’re all just winging it! xx

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  5. I completely agree with this, particularly how you feel about having to catch up to others. It’s hard to feel like you’re doing things right when people around you are getting promotions, having babies and getting engaged! However I think it’s important to realise we’re not the only ones and a lot of us have no idea what we’re doing, even the ones who seem to have perfect lives! Also I hope you had a great birthday!x

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    1. I think we’re all just winging it aren’t we Chloe?! I did have a great birthday thank you! xx

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  6. I don't think I've had a mid life crisis at any point of my life so far. I turned 48 this January and I've literally just winged it up to now, taking each day as it comes. It's weird as I'm an avid planner & list maker but I've never ever made a list or planned anything regarding my life and where I wanted to be etc. I've had a lot of curve balls thrown at me - like 8yrs ago I became housebound & bedridden - but I've just rolled with the punches, even if I've been frustrated at times. :)

    Sarah 🌺 || Boxnip || Latest Post

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    1. You have such a great attitude Sarah! I need you to send me some of your vibes my way please! x

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  7. I completely get where you're coming from. I'm about to graduate university and I have no clue what I'm doing afterwards. I was definitely stressing out about it earlier on in the year but now I'm sort of at peace with the mystery of it all. Whatever will be will be !

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

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    1. Congratulations on graduating Faye! I hope you have a great day! I completely agree, whatever will be will be!

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  8. Yes I think we have all been there at home point. I know I think back to when I was younger and thought my life would be different but it never pans out quite how it seems. Love this post I can relate x

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    1. Thank you Chloe! I’m glad you could relate x

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  9. Definitely felt like this when I turned 25, I ended up reverting back to my younger days and trying to get back what I missed as an 18/19 year old due to having my son. It was a tough couple of years but I’ve overcome my mid mid-life crisis thank god! X

    Hollie | ‪www.lifewithmytrio.com‬

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    1. I’m glad you’ve overcome it Hollie! x

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  10. I haven't hit my mid-twenties yet but I am definitely experiencing the 'after uni life crisis'! I may of just made that up but currently I have three weeks left of uni and I am terrified purely because I have no jobs lined up and I have no idea what I am going to do.. I'm trying to not let it upset me but recently I can't stop thinking about 'what on earth am I going to do?!' and I keep comparing myself! I really hope I get over this little crisis soon and I hope you get through yours too!

    Tabitha πŸ’›πŸŒ΅πŸ€ 
    www.latenightsandlattes.co.uk

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    1. Aww lovely I hope you get through yours! I think things will just fall into place for you!

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  11. This can happen any time of your life and many times it can happen.. this is kind of I am not happy monolog without words :)

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  12. I never went to uni so I don't have this! I worked since I was 13 and now I work and on my free time I travel... but this post so very interesting to read! i enjoyed this thanks for sharing!

    Jadieegosh   Instagram FacebookBloggerGroup

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  13. By the time I was 25 I thought I'd be settled down and either have kids or a career...as my 25th birthday approached I was like "well, at least I have a job that I'm thinking about advancing into a career" and then I got fired 2 weeks before my 25th because I'd had too much time off work struggling with my mental health and I crashed so hard because I hadn't done anything I thought I should have by that age, bar have two nervous breakdowns (yaaaaay?)

    I'm now heading towards 30 and since I got diagnosed with Autism last year (oh hey, turns out I'm not crazy) I've relaxed a bit about not keeping up with my peers - developmentally I'm at a different stage to them and that's okay. It's not a failure on my part, it's a difference in our wiring.

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    1. You're absolutely right lovely, it's not a failure on your part, you're just unique! I can't believe you got fired from your job because of your mental health, that's disgusting! I hope you sued (if that's the right word!) for unfair dismissal!

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  14. I can totally relate. When I was a kid all I wanted to do was to get out of school and be an adult and live my life how I wanted to live it. Now, I'm 24 almost 25, and I would so love to be a kid again. Adult life is so hard. I'm definitely not where I want to be in life, and I too have panicked that I'm not in a job that I love and that my life is going nowhere and will I just be like this for the rest of my life? But I think we need to remind ourselves that being in our 20s we are still so young, and still have plenty of time to achieve our dreams <3

    Chloe xx
    www.chloechats.com

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    1. Chloe, send me some of your vibes in a bottle please! I never thought of it this way, we are still sort of learning in our 20's, I will definitely adopt this attitude now! xx

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  15. I could literally be reading my own post! I turned 25 a couple of years ago and had a meltdown too. I just couldn't HANDLE being 25 years old and how my life isn't where I wished it would be at this age. Like as soon as I turned 25, I was convinced I was running out of time.

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. I felt exactly the same Jenny! I’m glad I’m not the only person to feel this way!

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  16. Honestly I am with you 100%! I'm 27 and I just started to feel this way the past two years.
    I think there is such a pressure to have things "together" when you're an adult, due to all the ones you idolised when you were younger perhaps? I certainly thought I'd have the house, kids and set career by now (and some people from school do) but I'm slowly coming to grips with the fact that my path is different to them!
    It also makes me laugh that I still look for an adult for help and one said to me "but you're an adult too!" and I just had to be like "you're an adultier adult" hahah.

    Kirstin
    http://LetsGoSomewhereElse.co.uk

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  17. I think the pressure of people’s expectations can get to us Kirstin, but you’re right, I’ve just had to accept that my path is different to everyone else’s! I love that phrase - “an adultier adult” !

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