Read this post about my health anxiety story.
I read somewhere the other day that health anxiety is almost impossible to treat. You can have coping mechanisms in place (like I do), but ultimately, nobody can guarantee that nothing bad will happen to you. Morbid, I know, but also morbidly true. For me, I have to stop reaching for Dr Google when I start worrying over any tiny ache or harmless sensation. Easier said than done.
The thing is, with health anxiety, it's hard to know what to say to someone who suffers from it. Honestly, the best thing you can do is listen and not judge. Also, if you avoid saying the following quotes I'm about to list, then you're already doing well.
1) You're being ridiculous
Not only patronising and ridiculing, but also not helpful. I may sound ridiculous to you, but what I'm feeling isn't. Health anxiety causes me to worry about my health constantly. Any little sensation, ache or pain triggers my anxiety and plays on my mind for days or weeks on end. Don't shame me for feeling these anxious feelings. I know I'm being slightly ridiculous, but no need to point it out to me and make me feel worse for feeling this!
2) It's just your brain playing tricks on you
Do you mind telling my brain to stop being naughty and stop it from making me think these thoughts that there's something seriously wrong with me? If you can, that would be marvellous.
3) Book an appointment with the GP, then
Seems quite obvious. But when you hear people say on TikTok that they got diagnosed with anxiety and it turned out to be something far more serious, then it makes me slightly lose faith in GPs. Also, with me, going to the doctors to confront a problem and potentially being diagnosed with something serious goes hand in hand with my health anxiety. I know some with health anxiety go to their GPs for their issues easily. For me, it's so much easier to go into denial and hope the problem goes away. Not the safest or healthiest option I know, but I'm working on it.
4) Oh, my friend's neighbour's cousin's babysitter had that, turned out it was c****r, now he/she/they are no longer with us
How people can see it as ok to say something like this is beyond me. Not only is it sad for the friend's neighbour's cousin's babysitter, but you've just fuelled my anxiety and have me questioning whether I've had that symptom recently and if I need to get it checked out. Thanks a bunch.
5) Have you considered it might be...
Unless you're a qualified doctor, don't tell me.
6) I'm sure it's nothing
Only reassuring for a few seconds, but then the thought flashes in my mind - "but what if it's not?".
Ahh it's so hard, isn't it! Sometimes I want someone just let me express my thoughts and feelings without making me feel silly!
ReplyDeleteCorinne x
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Absolutely Corinne! We should be able express how feelings and concerns without being made to feel like we're crazy! x
DeleteIt's not something I struggle with, but I have lots of experience of it from the other side. My husband has health anxiety. Thankfully it's not as bad as it once was, there were times where it was really difficult to cope with (for all parties of course) but thankfully it's much better now. Like you say though, there's no cure, I don't think it's ever going to go away. I feel like it's one of those things as well that lots of people suffer with, but nobody really talks about.
ReplyDeleteClaire.X
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I'm glad to hear that your husband's health anxiety is not as bad as it was in the past. It doesn't completely go away, but you can find coping mechanisms to help keep it under control. Health anxiety is indeed something that needs to be talked about more often! x
DeleteThis is so important, people really overlook health anxiety but I can be such a hard way to live! x
ReplyDeleteI agree Katy, people often do overlook health anxiety and it's a type of anxiety that needs to be taken seriously! x
DeleteHealth anxiety is awful, I get in my head so much sometimes that I start having panic attacks. It's so much worse when you have children too!
ReplyDeleteGemma Louise
It's awful when it causes a panic attack! I've seen so many mothers who struggle with this x
DeleteI totally agree. People don't walk in your shoes. So they should not make such comments.
ReplyDeleteAt the moment, I'm still free from any diseases. But I do sometimes struggle with my mental health and allergic to prawns. And I hate it when people make such comments about my allergies to prawns. My former bff once told me that I'm a boring person just because I can't ate prawns. And this is one of the reason why I unfriend her. Just sharing my story...
How can you be boring for not eating prawns?! It's not your fault you're allergic to them. I'm glad you're BFF is now a former BFF!
DeleteWritten like a true pro, going to share this with someone close to me. Thank you, Lucy
ReplyDeleteRosie
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Thank you so much Rosie x
DeleteI don’t suffer with health anxiety but I’ve got anxiety disorders and OCD and it honestly drives me up the wall when people use it as ‘I’m being tidy’
ReplyDeleteI’ve had a lot of ‘get over it’ over my life with my social anxiety. Like that’s a super magical cure!!
The 'Get over it' claims are the worst, if I could get over it, I would! And it doesn't make you feel any better when they say that to you!
DeleteThankfully, I am in good health. But I agree, and as someone who has dealt with anxiety attacks in the past, these are good tips. It should be talked about more; some people don't even realise they have struggled with it, and just suppress it.
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I agree lovely, it needs to be talked about more and not stigmatised x
DeleteGreat post, Lucy. The best thing people can do is listen and support without judgement. I've heard these comments before, whether it's directed at me or someone else, and it's never helpful. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely lovely, it's important for people to listen and not judge!
DeleteIt is really important that we listen without judgment instead of jumping into saying the first thing that comes to mind without considering how might the other person is/would feeling/feel. This post is a wondeful resource to bring awerness!! thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWafaa | https://www.loyaltyrain.com/
It's so important for people to listen and not judge! x
DeleteMy daughter deals with this and it's really difficult sometimes. We just need some coping mechanisms- thanks for the advice here.
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