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14 February 2019

Yes I'm Single - And Your Problem Is?

I've been single for a while now, I'm not ashamed to admit that. It's not like I'm going to cop off with the first man I see in the pub or meet every single man I like on Tinder (I don't have Tinder btw, not my cup of tea) the right man will come around eventually. I do believe in fate and that what is meant to be will happen. If it doesn't happen, it's not meant to be, a lesson which I have definitely learnt over the last couple of years.



T Shirt // New Look

However, I tell people that I'm not seeing anyone and they automatically give your this response -


"Ooh we'll have to set you up with someone!"
 
 
Yeah, probably they're weirdo friend who collects stamps as a hobby or their next door neighbour who owns a pet snake.
No I don't want to be set up thank you very much, I'd rather be alone than try and enforce a connection with someone who thinks he's got a chance of getting his leg over.
This is my point, I don't want to be set up with that weirdo friend or neighbour. Let me find my own man in my own time and way.


Some people (and I'm not including everyone in this statement) seem to have a problem if you're single in your mid-twenties. They think you should have about 3 kids, be married, have your own house and potter around the house with the Dyson. Well, not in that exact order, but you get what I mean. Yes, a few of my friends are already doing that, which makes me so happy because they deserve nothing but happiness. But I would never tell them before now that they should go out and meet someone and have lots of babies. That is kind of intrusive.
I'm a firm believer in letting nature take its course. When things happen, it'll happen because they're meant to happen. You can't force fate.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be single forever. I don't want to be the old lady who owns about 17 cats. I'll find the right man and it'll be better because I found and met him myself and not been set up to meet him.


 
If you're single, do you get hassled about it?
 
 
 
Lucy
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33 comments

  1. I feel like I could have written that pot myslef haha! I couldn't agree more with what you said x
    Some people are truly annoying when they feel sorry because we're single... like, is it even a problem?!?!

    Anaïs | http://anais-n.com

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    1. Exactly Anais! I'm glad somebody else agrees with me! x

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  2. All my friends in the town I grew up in got married and had kids young. Like early to mid twenties young. Whenever I would visit, they'd ask when I was going to bring a guy home, when I was going to settle. I did it in my own time, and with a woman. I'm glad I did it on my timeframe and didn't settle when the time wasn't right!

    Holly | www.honestlyholly23.com

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    1. Good for you Holly! I’m glad you didn’t settle when you wasn’t ready to!

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  3. I'm 38 and single. I've been in and out of relationships and quite honestly, they seem to be getting worse and worse and I'm just not interested in going down that path right now. While I don't want to be the single woman with 17 cats, I actually don't know if that's worse than constantly finding abusive man after abusive man. And the men I have chosen the last few times have either been emotionally or physically abusive or just liars who wanted someone else and didn't have the you know what's to tell me. I don't need that crap. No one does. So, I've chosen to stay single for now. I've been asked out and I've turned them down. And yes, I've gotten the comments too from people. Worse are the ones who are like "oh don't worry, your match is out there." Not everyone finds someone. Maybe I will, maybe I won't but I'm not going to hope that I find the one when the one may not even exist. I'd rather spend time with my 2 cats. Hey, it's not 17 lol

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    1. Good for you Melissa! They say that what is meant to be will always find its way!

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  4. Im single and found this pos really reassuring! Also loved the top!
    My recent post: https://lifeofellabella.blogspot.com/2019/02/tips-for-better-nights-sleep.html

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  5. I've not been in this situation myself but I know lots of friends who get this and they get so frustrated with it! Also that top is gorgeous! xxxx

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  6. I’m 19, turning 20 this year and that’s 2 decades of being single. I’m not looking anymore, I’ve deleted all the dating apps, blocked and deleted all the guys I’ve just been chatting to because nothing is coming from any of them. Ready to live my best, single, male free life. Sometimes, seeing all my friends with their boyfriends can make me feel a bit down but a man will walk into my life when it’s my time, for now, I’ll enjoy the joys of being single and live vicariously through instagram couples haha

    Fran | www.franciscarockey.co.uk

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    1. It's still available at New Look I think Fran! I'm like you, I'm just enjoying being single and the right man will come along eventually! x

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  7. Omg I can relate to this so much! It bugs me so much when people tell me that it’s my time to get married soon and I’ll have to find a boy, like no thank you, I’m happy to be single �� I’ve never been in a relationship too which makes it so much worse!

    amerzwithlove.com

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  8. Well you'd get bonus cool points from me if you did own a pet snake though haha! I love this post- so witty and I completely feel you, I think people can say really inappropriate things and it must get so frustrating if your happily single to have people assuming that you're not okay with it! This tee is super cute as well!

    Soph - http://sophhearts.com x

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    1. Haha I don't think I would ever want a pet snake! I'm glad you liked the post Soph! x

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  9. I completely agree with everything you’ve said here! Though I’m not single, a lot of my friends are and I feel like one of the first things that they get asked when we meet up after a long time is “so do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?”, or my mum always asks! There really is no rush and it shouldn’t be that people have to help you find someone.

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    1. Absolutely Chloe! There's no need to rush with these things!

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  10. Preach it girl! There's so much pressure on having to do certain things by certain times but we're all on separate paths in life. Let life lead the way and you'll have nothing to worry about, everything takes time! Ignore the pressure and keep your head held high. x
    El | Welsh Wanderer

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  11. I've had enough dodgy dates over the years, think snake owning stamp collector vibes, and it's 100% better not to be with anyone than these lunes. One guy I dated actually sent me a review of our date! (I got 3.5 out of five in case you are wondering haha!)

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  12. Love this post. I feel like society is so different to how it used to be, people don't tend to have kids in their early twenties like they used to, but I still have heard a few people be like, you're almost 25 when you going to think about having kids? I am not ready at all, I know people go on about body clocks but being 24 I definitely have plenty of time!

    Chloe xx
    www.chloechats.com

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    1. Exactly Chloe! There is plenty of time for kids! Body clock stuff is a load of rubbish! xx

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  13. I can relate. I am almost 26 and I am single. Many people give me the sad look when I say that I am still single. But I am compelety fine with it. I am not in a rush. It will happen when the right time arrives.

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  14. I'm in an entirely opposite boat from you (been with my bf since I was 15) but I couldn't agree more with your points! We put way too much pressure on people to be in relationships and not enough emphasis on people spending the time to actually get to know themselves.

    I think you'll be in a much better position to have a healthy relationship when the time comes by not rushing it and jumping into a marriage and kids with the first person you meet just because match.com encourages it!

    Inspiring, keep it up!!

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    1. Thank you Gemma! All you've said is completely true! x

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  15. Ah, don't you just love it when people are stuffing their noses into things that won't belong to them? I can really relate to this (even though I haven't been single these past almost 10 years).

    ✖ Jasmin
    // overdosedoncaffeine.com

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    1. I'm glad you could relate to this post Jasmin! I hate it when people are so nosey!x

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  16. Some really inspiring post for single people, thanks for sharing.

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