Every now and then, this thing called life gets on top of us.
So when it all gets that little bit too much, you break down. It doesn’t mean that you’re weak, it means that you have been strong for too long. As it’s Mental Health Awareness Week, I wanted to write a post about why having a day where you just have to hate the world and everything about it is ok once in a while.
I’d just like to say that we all handle stressful situations very differently and individually we deal with different situations on a daily basis, however serious or small it may be.
But sometimes things just do get on top of us and you can sink into a down trodden mood which, no matter what, you just can’t seem to snap out of.
I had a bit of a meltdown the other day. Something, (and I can honestly say I don’t know what) put me in a foul mood for the rest of the day and I couldn’t snap out of it. It carried on until through to the next day and I couldn’t even face going into work, literally about 2 minutes after I told work I couldn’t accept school job for the day, I was crying like a baby in my Mam’s arms. My god I felt better after that. When you cry, it’s never usually over just one thing, it’s built up anger and hidden emotions that you have been holding in for far too long.
Things were starting to get on top of me, I felt like my worries and overthinking my worries and overthinking my overthinking of my worries (stay with me) were pulling me under, I felt like I was standing on quicksand. If I don’t feel myself, I just tell people I’m tired or I say the two words that I can imagine mot people use to divert attention away from themselves and what people believe to be true – “I’m fine”. A very common answer for me to use when I am feeling out of sorts.
Sometimes when I am in a bad place, I feel like I need to scream and shout from the slanted roof top of my house, to just get everything out in the open.
Crying is so cathartic, it’s like a release, you gain so much from it. It sounds weird I know, but having an episode like the one I had the other day made me get up the next morning feeling like I could conquer the world. To me, that day was just a blip, I learnt a valuable lesson from it, and it’s a lesson which I will never learn if I’m honest, which is don’t bottle things up!
One little bit advice I can give is to speak to someone you trust. Whether it is a family member, your best friend or even a psychologist or counsellor. A listening ear is sometimes all you need to help you through your bad time.
I have just one more thing to say on this subject:
Don’t ever think you are weak or hopeless just because you cry or you feel things are getting on top of you, you are a strong and you can get through this. Don’t let anything or anyone beat you or bring you down, you are better and more importantly, stronger than that.
How do you handle things when you are feeling down?
Lucy xx