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16 September 2019

Travelling Solo

I've travelled solo a few times now, mainly Liverpool but also to Brighton. As much as there is a sense of apprehension surrounding a solo trip, there is a great feeling of independence and confidence when you venture out of your home town.



The anxiety can dangerously spoil a lone trip away. In my case, I worry about my travel plans getting ruined by a late train or a hotel not coming up to scratch. Maybe the plans I had arranged get tossed out of the window unexpectedly. Mind you, if I named every single worst case scenario, I wouldn't go anywhere. I'd be stuck in a house like a hermit if I didn't go to new and different places.

Travelling Solo
Tee - Noisy May (ASOS)
Skirt // Nasty Gal

Then when you go somewhere and there are no booboo's or mishaps during travel, the feeling of achievement and a kind of relief you feel when you arrive at your hotel room and flop down on your neatly made bed is unreal.



One thing I have noticed since I have taken some little adventures unaccompanied, is people's reactions and remarks to when I tell them I'm venturing somewhere on my tod. One that makes my ears stand to attention is when they say this after I tell them I'm travelling somewhere solo -

"That's so brave"



Eh? I just can't quite comprehend how freely choosing to take a break away on my own is seen as such a courageous act? You are brave when you do something which you are afraid of. You're afraid of spiders, clasp one in your hand, you're afraid of heights, walk to the top of the tallest building (or get in the lift), if you're afraid of snails, umm, get a pet snail. My point is is that me travelling to different places on my own isn't brave, it's something I have chosen to do and (sometimes) I enjoy it.

Travelling Solo


That doesn't mean that there are some things that cause me to have huge anxiety or fear when travelling. Cancelled trains or rearranged plans don't help my anxiety at all. However, it's how you overcome or solve the problem is the key to happy travelling. I always like to think that there will always be a solution if an obstacle gets thrown my way. It's a good way for me personally to think as it can calm me down and there is always someone there to help.



Travelling on my own brings me some little incentives though. For example, people who know me know that I love being underestimated. I love reading and seeing people's reactions when I say or do something that they think is completely uncharacteristic of me. So when I tell a friend, a nurse down the hospital or the people in the chemist that I'm venturing off to Liverpool or wherever, they're completely surprised that it is me that is actually saying that to them, like I said, they've underestimated what I am capable of doing.

Travelling Solo


Would I recommend someone to take a break away by themselves? Definitely - but only if you feel you can. Only you can know whether you can travel somewhere unchaperoned. If it isn't something you feel you can do, then don't. I would never enforce anybody to attempt something which they are not confident enough in doing. That's just cruel. Everybody moves along at their own pace , I travelled by myself for the first time when I was 22. I didn't think I could do it even back then, but I bit the bullet and went for it and it completely changed my mindset for the better.




I hope that I have inspired some of you out there to book that hotel room and train/plane ticket somewhere special today!



Have you travelled on your own? Let me know!
 
 
Lucy
 
 
*Photography by Ellie Blakeney
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32 comments:

  1. I have travelled solo to NZ but I was meeting someone there, but haven't actually been on a solo trip before. I actually do think it's a pretty brave thing to do - I don't know if I'd have the confidence to do it myself, but I would like to one day! My thing is to how I would take travel photos haha xx

    Jessie | jessie-ann.co.uk

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    1. That’s a big thing to do on your own travelling to New Zealand, I don’t think I could ever fly that far on my own, I know you were meeting someone there, but still! xx

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  2. I know the feeling traveling alone. At first it is scary. Great post.

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  3. I'd really like to travel by myself one day! The furthest I've ever gotten was the next state over (a botanical garden in Pennsylvania) because I've always been too scared to travel far by myself!

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  4. I love this! I’ve always wanted to travel by myself to some places but have always been accompanied by someone else. I think it’s the same as going to the cinema on your own! If you want to why not!!

    Shannon | www.shannonkims.com

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    1. Exactly Shannon, if you want to do things by yourself, then do them!

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  5. I love that you solo travel! If I had the time I would love to got to all sorts of places x

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    1. I’m fortunate as I work part time right now to travel to different places x

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  6. This is really inspiring. I have never travelled by myself as I’m too scared, one reason is I’m not great at talking to strangers so my partner always does it for me

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    1. Talking to strangers is still pretty difficult for me too Sarah, but my way of thinking of it is that I’ll never see them again!

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  7. I haven't done a lot of solo travelling but I love going out by myself. When I was at university I used to take myself into London for the day regularly. I loved wandering around the city and taking myself for lunch! x

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

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    1. Trips like that are usually the best ones Faye! x

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  8. I love travelling by myself! The only thing that would make me nervous is certain countries where I wouldn't feel 100% safe but the vast majority of the time I'm very happy to explore by myself. In a kinda selfish way, it's nice to do what you want & go where you want without worrying about other people's plans x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. I haven't travelled abroad on my own and I don't think I won't for a long time yet! That's of the perks of travelling on your own Sophie, you can do as you please when you travel solo! x

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  9. I've done a little bit of travelling on my own, mainly places in England. I quite enjoy long journeys all on my own. Not sure if I could travel internationally on my own though x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌟 http://www.kayleighzaraa.com

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    1. I've just travelled to places in England too Kayleigh, I like journeys on my own but I'm like you in that I don't think I'll ever travel internationally on my own! x

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  10. I don't mind sodding off by myself within England but internationally, I wanted to soak it up with someone else! X

    Vanessa x

    therealnessonline.com

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    1. That's exactly how I feel about travelling too Vanessa, travel within England on my own and with somebody else abroad! x

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  11. Your photos are absolutely captivating!

    - Laura || https://afinnontheloose.com

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  12. Love that you said you solo travelled for the purpose of wanting to have a break by yourself. When people say its brave to travel alone, as well meaning as it is it highlights the stigma around solo travel - that it's not usual for people to do that and that the social "norm" is to travel with family and friends only, which can be stressful funnily enough. May more enjoyable solo travel experiences await you Lucy :)

    Johnny | Johnny's Traventures
    https://johnnystraventures.com

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    1. OMG yes! I love this comment! There seems to be a stigma with people travelling on their own, travelling with other can be just as stressful and sometimes even more stressful when you're travelling with others!

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  13. I have always loved the idea of travelling on my own but never had the confidence to do so. It is lovely to see such a positive view of travelling on your own :)

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    1. That's completely understandable Imogen, I never had the confidence to travel alone at all until a few years ago, I always let my anxiety get the better of me!

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  14. I've been so scared to travel solo, but I am definitely going to do try it!

    Love, Amie ❤

    The Curvaceous Vegan

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  15. You are so right! I had so many chances to do so when I was studying in England for 3 years but I took it for granted, definitely a regret. Now I'm trying to find an opportunity to do so but it just seems like so many things are pulling me back travelling around the US (I live in NYC now).

    Hopefully I'll get to do it one day. Keep travelling solo and have as many good experiences as you can!

    Shuana
    howivebeen.com

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    1. I hope you get to travel around the US one day Shuana! x

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