I'm Lucy and I'm an ambivert.
Whenever I have seen people I follow ask on their Stories whether we're an Introvert or Extrovert, I never know which option on the poll to tap. I tap on the one which depends on what my current activity is. If I'm sat inside watching The Repair Shop with a cuppa, then I tap Introvert. If I'm 'out out' necking Passionfruit Martinis, then I (tipsily) tap Extrovert. But I've never really wanted to place myself in one camp. They're both complete opposites on the personality spectrum and I can't put my finger on which one I belong to.
Just recently, I came across the word "Ambivert" and immediately related that this kind of personality. An ambivert is a person has a balance of being both an introvert and extrovert depending on their mood, situation and goals. It's like your smack bang in the middle of the personality spectrum. Yep guys, that's me. I'm so pleased that I have managed to find a personality trait/spectrum I can relate to and that I belong to, after years of wondering which of the other two most popular personality traits I belonged to, it's nice that to find out about the ambivert personality.
So, what's it like being an ambivert? Well, if you've been like me and felt unclear whether you're an ambivert or not, see if you can relate to these key traits -
1) YOU LIKE SOCIALISING & SPENDING TIME WITH YOURSELF
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This is me in a nutshell. During the lockdown, as much as I enjoyed having time to myself, I really missed socialising and craved it so much. I love being out with friends and going to eat, drink cocktails or even doing something as simple as going for a walk. But then some days, I like to chill at home with a cuppa/glass of wine and just have that bit of me time. Now there's some normality back in our lives, it's been amazing to do both of these things properly again.
2) YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE IN DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENTS
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Ok, this can differ in a lot of people. Some environments I feel at ease in. However, environments like festivals are places I don't feel relaxed in. Yet, most ambiverts feel relaxed being in whatever environment or place they find themselves in. Whether that be a crowded bar or in the living room watching Netflix, there's not many places an ambivert would not feel uncomfortable in or be a part of.
3) YOU FEEL INDECISIVE
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Oh my word, I'm the most indecisive person in the world. It can take me ages to make a decision and I'm not a fan of being put on the spot in that perspective. Sometimes a friend will come at me with a plan and I'll base my decision on what mood I'm in. Ambiverts usually withdraw from social situations or be unusually quiet when they're in a social situation they're not in the mood for. For example, if I go out and I'm not in the right frame of mind, I will almost certainly be quiet to the point where I don't bother to interact with my friends/family at all.
4) YOU CAN WORK WITHIN A GROUP & WORK SOLO
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I work as part of a team well and love working with my work mates to solve problems and to just help the day flow well. Then, I like doing things such as blogging on my own, having that time away to myself to write and create content is something I also thrive on. It could be the same for you too.
5) YOU'RE VERY EMPATHETIC
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Ambiverts generally are good listeners and can sympathise and put themselves in the shoes of others to help solve the plights of others. An ambivert can ask questions and try to help.
I can honestly say that being an ambivert is fine with me. I feel happy that I have a personality trait I can relate my whole persona to, I'm proud to say that I'm an ambivert. I know people who will read this may not connect with this and will either side with being an introvert or extrovert. But I hope that this post has given you something to think about!
Are you an ambivert? Can you relate to this personality trait? Let me know!
I have never heard of Ambivert before, but I really can releate to all of the things that you have mentioned!
ReplyDeleteDanielle | thereluctantblogger.co.uk
I honestly hadn't either until I saw it on Google! x
DeleteI didn't know ambiverts were a thing. I'm happy that you found a personality trait you relate to!
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely a rare personality trait, but it's so good to find one that I can relate to x
DeleteI've not heard this term before so I loved reading about this! I'm definitely an introvert with some extroverted traits xx
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of people can identify with that Della! xx
DeleteThis is me! I find it so hard to choose in those polls too and all of these traits are very relatable- especially being indecisive and liking tone alone and with people:) thanks for sharing Lucy! x
ReplyDeleteYeah I always struggle to choose which one I am in those polls! I'm always such an indecisive person, that's why I'm an ambivert! x
DeleteI didn't even know ambivert was a thing, I definitely feel like I identify with a few of these traits!
ReplyDeleteI think quite a few people didn't know what it was either Amie!
DeleteI knew there would be a term for being both! Thank you for the heads up as to what that term was - I feel like you, I can be both depending on where I am x
ReplyDeleteI'm so pleased to find that there is a term for both Simona! x
DeleteThis is interesting! I haven't heard much of ambiverts, but there are points that I can relate to here! Sometimes I feel like an introvert, and others I'm happily extraverted. For me it depends on who I'm with - mostly extraverted with my family and (some) friends, and introverted with colleagues for example!
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Ambiverts seem to be a rare term for a lot of people Julia, I'm glad I can explain what it is to others in this post! That's really interesting that you differ between introvert and extrovert depending on the people you're with! x
DeleteVery interesting! I'm definitely an introvert but I can be a little extroverted in certain situations. Ambivert sounds great though - you have the best of both worlds! I'd love to be a little more extroverted haha
ReplyDeleteI like you're way of thinking - "the best of both worlds". I honestly never thought of it like that!
DeleteIt makes sense that some people will be a healthy mix of both introvert and extrovert traits. I definitely lean heavily towards introvert but under the right circumstances (and depending on my mood) I'm what's referred to as an 'outgoing introvert'. I think most people are varying degrees of both (not necessarily as clearly defined as am ambivert) so this was really interesting to read. I love learning about things like this as I think it helps us understand people better -- thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI agree lovely, I think some people are definitely a mix of both extrovert and introvert! I'm pleased that you learnt something from this post! x
DeleteThis completely sums me up too. It depends on the setting and what mood I'm in though.
ReplyDeleteYeah definitely, mood and setting can have a real influence on things!
DeleteSo interesting! I wasn't aware of ambivert's. I would say I'm more introverted but I do have sporadic extrovert moments. Maybe I am an ambivert too haha xx
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Haha maybe you are lovely! xx
DeleteI haven't heard of that term before but you explained it perfectly and it definitely makes sense. Thanks so much for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I've managed to make sense! Thank you for reading lovely x
DeleteI feel like I've never heard of the term ambivert before. I don't know if that's silly or not. I'm definitely more of an introvert, although I don't see it as a negative things which is so often portrayed. I can definitely see you as an ambivert!
ReplyDeleteClaire.X
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No it's not silly at all Claire, I can promise you that you're not the only one to not know the term, I would never say that being an introvert as a negative thing at all, I wish it wasn't portrayed as that in the media! x
DeleteI fully agree with this, Lucy! I find myself an extrovert but I get what you mean when you say that you feel different in different environments. I tend to be more loud when the group is quiet and more quiet when the group is loud. Thanks for sharing x
ReplyDeleteLynn | https://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com
I'm exactly like you Lynn, I'm quiet in loud groups but louder in quieter groups! x
DeleteI remember when I first heard this term a few years ago and thought that sounded like me too. I do lean slightly more introvert as I love spending time alone, but I'm not at all shy about speaking up in a group and do like social situations too and it really depends on my mood whether I want to be social or withdrawn that day. But I honestly thought a lot of people probably fall into that group x
ReplyDeleteSophie
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I think it's a group that a lot of people fall into, but I think we're all introverted and extroverted in some way! x
DeleteI've heard of ambivert but I'm very much an introvert! I used to be 100% (took a test and everything) but I think I have a few sprinkles of extrovert since lockdown and wanting to meet up! xx
ReplyDeleteI think after being locked away for so much over the last 18 months, it does make you a little more extroverted! xx
DeleteNice post, it's great that you're able to adapt to different situations! I'm definitely an introvert but interesting to read this.
ReplyDeleteI hope you've learnt something Anika! x
DeleteI can definitely relate to a few of these but I'd describe myself as an introvert overall. This was really interesting to read Lucy :)
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That's really good that you really identify to one of the personality traits Faye, I'm glad you enjoyed this post! x
DeleteI think I can relate to this too! Ive always thought I've had both traits of an introvert and extrovert so I though I would be something like an extroverted introvert. But maybe I'm an ambivert after all! Very interesting! Thank you for sharing, I will definitely be looking this up now!
ReplyDeleteLife is a Shoe
It sounds like you're an ambivert to me! x
DeleteI am very ambivert haha! I can relate to all the things you shared and I think being an ambivert is so cool xx
ReplyDeletelenne | lennezulkiflly.com
Being an ambivert is so good, I like being a mixture of both introvert and extrovert! xx
DeleteDo you know what? I'm very ambivert but I've never ever heard of this before. I'm all for socialising but I want to stay comfortable and in my little bubble!
ReplyDeleteRosie
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You're definitely an ambivert by the sounds of it Rosie! x
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