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24 October 2020

What Sexy Means To Me

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I never thought a blog post title of mine would have the word 'sexy' in it. Sexy can be taken in two different ways, it can be seen as a compliment or as a derogatory remark. I've never been a fan of being called sexy. I don't call men sexy. I would much rather say that a man is attractive or good looking. But this is my opinion, insert your opinion at the end of this post, I'd love to know your views on this!



Anyway, recently, Figleaves got in touch with me to send me this beautiful new Mila underwear set and asked me, if I wished, to write a caption on an Insta post giving my definition what sexy means to me. At first, I was a little apprehensive and I couldn't really think what to write! After thinking about it, I thought, why not?! It'll be interesting for people to read of what the definition of sexy is to myself. I can imagine that women and men will have a different opinion of what sexy means to them. 


In their email to me, Figleaves wanted to focus on how I feel in my own skin and not focus on being sexy for the gaze of someone else. That statement really got me thinking - what does sexy mean to me? What are the qualities that make me feel good being in my own skin? Well, after a while, I made a little list -


1) EMBRACING  &  ACCEPTING  MY  FLAWS 
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I've always found it a hardship to embrace and accept my flaws. Having Cystic Fibrosis means I am presented with body hang ups from the illness and the side effects of the medications. I have days where I am happy with my body and are happy to walk around my room in my underwear (making sure the curtains are closed, I've made that error before). However, there are multiple days when I want to hide my body away behind an oversized jumper and curl up and eat a whole bag of Kettle crisps. I've learned over time that my body will always have flaws and imperfections and rather than bitch about them, I should just accept them and remember that we all have flaws, it's not just me.



2) BEING  MYSELF
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Being myself has been my philosophy ever since I left school. I got bullied for being myself in school and when I left, I finally got to be me and being yourself means you can have a positive impact on the world. If we all acted the same, the world would be such a tedious place. Being who we are adds that sense of uniqueness to our lives.


3) REALISING  I  WILL  NEVER  BE  PERFECT
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This point kind of ties in with the first one, but yes, we all aren't perfect. Even the Queen (an absolute inspiration I might add) has her faults (hardly any though). Yep, I will never be perfect, so will none of you, so accept that fact and move on.



4) CONFIDENCE
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I don't mean the arrogant kind of confidence. I mean that quiet confidence of feeling good within yourself and feeling like you can conquer the world. That quiet confidence can really make me feel good about myself. However, that feeling doesn't happen very often so when it does happen, I definitely relish it!


5) WEARING  CLOTHES  THAT  MAKE  ME  HAPPY
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Want to wear that crop top. HELL YEAH I WILL. Maybe not so much now as it's a bit chilly outside, but in the Summer, yes, I'm gonna dress like Winnie The Pooh whether you like it or not! I've always been a believer in wearing the clothes that I feel good in, this is something that certainly makes me feel good in my own skin. 




I'd love to know your thoughts on this!



*This bra set was sent to me in exchange for Instagram content. I was not asked or obliged to write a blog post to include the underwear. All views are my own. For more details, please read my disclaimer.

66 comments:

  1. Such an important message. I also believe that 'sexy' is a state of mind by yourself. Thees something powerful about a nice matching set of undies! 💜

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    1. Thank you Fiona, I always feel like I got my s**t together when I'm wearing matching underwear! x

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  2. Yes queen, I love this post!! Confidence is so so important and learning to embrace who you are. You look amazing! xx

    http://www.dellalovesnutella.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you so much Della! You're right, confidence is important in embracing who you are! xx

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  3. I totally agree! Being confident and accepting your body is so important in feeling sexy

    Candice x

    NatalyaAmour.com

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    1. It is lovely, accepting your body for the way it is is important for confidence! x

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  4. What a bloody great blog post and I agree with everything!

    Danielle xx
    https://www.thereluctantblogger.co.uk/

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  5. I loved reading this, you made so many great points. I'm not a huge fan of the word sexy either but I agree with you, I think confidence is a big part of it. You could be the most stunning person on earth but if the confidence isn't there, there's definitely something lacking. Really interesting post! x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Sophie, you're so right, you could be the most gorgeous person on the planet and still have confidence issues. I'm so glad you liked the post lovely! x

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  6. You go girl! I’ve always found sexy a weird word too but it’s so good to feel confident enough to FEEL sexy x

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    1. Ah thank you babe! I'm glad it's not just me who feels the same way about the word 'sexy' x

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  7. You look so amazing in those pictures! I totally agree being 'sexy' also means embracing your flaws and loving them!

    ✨ Marissa Belle × marsybun.com ✨

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    1. Ah thank you so much Marissa! I'm glad you agree lovely x

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  8. oh wow! that looks amazing on you!!
    kisses from the sandpits of dubai
    www.mahryska.com

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  9. This is such a beautiful message. You look stunning and I think it's amazing that you're confident enough to flaunt it!

    I love this set too - Thank you for sharing this post :)

    Em x

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  10. This was so inspiring to read! You look amazing!

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  11. Completely agree! What a gorgeous set too. x

    Zoey | www.zoeyolivia.com

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  12. Lovely images, being "sexy" isn't just about looking conventionally "amazing", it's about feeling good in yourself. You look so gorgeous in these images, thanks for sharing x

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    1. Exactly lovely, it's about feeling good in yourself! Thank you so much! x

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  13. Lovely post. Completely agree with everything you said, being sexy is all about confidence in your own skin!

    Tash // A Girl with a View

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    1. It really is Tash, I'm so glad you agree with everything in the post!

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  14. This set is gorgeous on you Lucy. And this is such an important message in this post.

    Thank you so much for sharing so openly X x

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  15. I absolutely love this post, you look so amazing! xx

    www.coleoftheball.com

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  16. I'm glad you mentioned thae part about accepting your flaws or imperfections. There's been plenty of times before when people have suggested that just correcting the flaws would be the only way to overcome them and it's not that hard, but accepting them seems more important for the mental state and is more realistic.

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    1. That's so true lovely, it's important for people to know that it's so much better for mental health and confidence to embrace your flaws rather than correct them!

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  17. This post has been so wonderful to read. It's realy refreshing to hear from someone who I see as a near on perfect and to see that you feel like you have imperfections. And they should be celebrated - we can't all look super slim or athletic, our bodies are working to keep us a live!
    Great post!

    Rosie

    loverosiee.co.uk

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    1. Thank you so much Rosie! You're right lovely, all imperfections should be celebrated as nobody has the perfect body and yes, our bodies do a good job to keep us alive so we should love our bodies!

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  18. That bra set is SO lovely and you look bloody amazing! I love this post. Sexy is such a broad term and I think it can mean different things to everyone. Embracing your flaws is so important and celebrating ourselves and our beautiful bodies x

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    1. Ah thank you so much Jenny! You're right lovely, it's so important to embrace our bodies and its flaws x

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  19. Sexy for me is being comfortable in your own skin. If you feel comfortably and confident it shows. Loved the post and you look so beautiful and sexy!

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    1. Absolutely Heather! Oh thank you so much lovely x

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  20. I love the way you wholeheartedly embraced this topic and opened up about your thoughts on being sexy. I think sexiness is unique to every individual. Sexiness can come through when you're fully clothed and just have the most confident air about you, and it can also come from beautiful and luxurious lingerie like this and how it creates a new spice to your personality. There are so many ways to feel sexy - but most of it stems from the way you feel INSIDE! (Although I'll admit I feel hella sexy when I get new lacy pieces like these hehe)

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    1. You're right lovely, sexiness is unique for every individual! That's sp true what you said Stephanie, feeling sexy stems from the way you feel inside!

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  21. I love this post so much! And the whole idea behind it. I feel like the idea behind sexy is so unique to everyone and everyone is sexy in their own right. You look so beautiful in the photos!X

    Nicola | nicoladaletraining.com

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    1. Thank you Nicola! You're right lovely, the idea of being sexy is unique to everyone! x

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  22. I love this post! You look amazing and I agree with all of these points :)

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  23. Such a fab post, feeling sexy is such a great feeling but it doesn't come as often as it should! Do love a good matching set though!x

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    1. Thank you Hannah, you can't beat a matching underwear set, it makes me feel like I got my sh*t together! x

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  24. Thanks for sharing, its so important to feel confident when wearing good fitting under wear :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

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  25. I saw your Insta pics as well and you look absolutely gorgeous, Lucy. I think body confidence is a better term than sexy (which I don't like either) and you are absolutely rocking yours. Brilliant post, hugely inspirational! X

    Lisa | https://www.lisasnotebook.com

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    1. Aww thank you so much Lisa! I agree lovely, I much prefer the term body confident to sexy x

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  26. Great post! I deffo agree, confidence is key tofeeling sexy (although like you, I don't think I like the term either).

    Aimsy xoxo
    https://www.aimsysantics.co.uk

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  27. I love this post! I've put on weight recently and don't feel my best, but I know it'll get better for me - I'm so glad you've got the confidence to feel good about yourself x

    Emily | emiliamarlowe.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Emily! It will get better for you babe, I love your attitude girl! x

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  28. This is such an important topic. Feeling confident in our own skin is something we are all entitled to but rarely feel it. You've raised some great points. This set looks lovely on you.

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    1. I completely agree, feeling confident in our skin is so important. Thank you so much lovely!

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  29. Such an important subject and I’m in awe that you shared it so well. Figleaves are such a gorgeous brand too! I always feel so great in their swimwear! X

    Hollie | HollieAnnBowe.com

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    1. Aww thank you so much Hollie! I adore Figleaves, they sell such amazing underwear and swimwear! x

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  30. Love the empowering message in this post, so inspiring! I totally agree that it comes from within, but a matching set definitely helps. Lovely post.

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

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    1. Thank you Anika! You can't beat a matching set to give you confidence! x

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  31. This is a powerful message. I'll be honest, I don't think that I have ever sat down and considered what 'sexy' means to me free from the response from others. Reading your post really got me thinking. I love that the brand is using their voice to help promote something so empowering for women!

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    1. Thank you Britt, I felt the same before writing this post too, I never really considered what sexy meant to me until Figleaves mentioned it in their email to me, it's such a powerful thing to think about! x

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  32. What a beautiful set and you! ^_^ I love the honesty of this post, you've written really beautifully about this. I honestly stopped for a minute to think how I would describe 'sexy' for myself and I do struggle to define it :D

    Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

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    1. Aww thank you so much Teresa! I'm so glad that you liked the post lovely, it is hard to define sexy isn't it?! x

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  33. This is amazing every woman needs to read this.. You are beautiful and your style of writing is too !! Love the sexy set as well looks amazing. Thank you so much for sharing, stay safe during this time and hope to see you on my blog whenever you find time for some festive vibes and posts www.the-missing-chapter.com kisses from London.. xXx

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    1. Aww thank you so much! I'm so glad that you liked this post and thank you for reading! xx

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