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15 February 2020

The Topic of S-E-X

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In school, during a biology lesson, or a an PSHE lesson, I can't remember now. Anyhow, I learnt about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's basically a five tier triangle stating what we as humans cannot live without. The needs lower down in the hierarchy triangle must be met and satisfied before you can move up further in the triangle (I'm no science expert). The basic needs (the lowest level on the triangle) are food, water, air, shelter, sleep, clothing and...sex.





Yes, I said it, sex. It's something a lot of us have on regular basis (please don't message me your sexual timetable, I don't need to know) we all need it, as Maslow's hierarchy of needs states.


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Yet, even though it's a natural thing to do in life, people are still embarrassed to talk about it, sometimes myself included. But what makes some of us embarrassed to talk about it? Is it because generations before us saw it as a taboo subject? Have we been taught by our parents that this is the correct response whenever someone brings it up in the conversation?




In school, I would always stray away from any convo's my friends would have about sex. Only because it wasn't something I was comfortable talking about openly. And more often or not, they were talking a load of bullshit anyway. Do you remember when we would hear those cocky gobshites in our year talk about how they have "done things" and they're only in like Year 8? More often or not, they haven't. It's just pure bragging rights and chatting shit. Yes lad, keep that info to yourself.





If you want your sex life to remain private, then you keep it that way! No if's or but's (no pun intended there I swear!). Don't feel you have to chip into the convo about it over your tuna and sweetcorn pasta post in the canteen at lunchtime. Whether you're still in school or in the office. Yeah I know people make innuendos and sexual references to things and that's fine, I've made references just for a joke, but never about my own sex life. Nah, that's kept behind closed doors.



Watching This Morning the other day and a woman in her seventies was on there talking about dating a younger man for the first time. During the interview, she admitted to Holly and Phillip that she used a whole tube of KY jelly during her first time with him. Of course, Holly and Phillip are in stitches at this point, as am I watching from my sofa at home. I was laughing at her honesty and the fact she was so open about that she used a whole tube of lube.




Obviously everybody is going to have a different opinion about this. All I can say is that my friends don't tell me about their sex lives. I would never expect them to and to be honest, unless they're very worried about something or something bad has happened to them, I don't need or want to know. Call me old fashioned or a prude, but I do believe that everyone's sex lives should kept private. I don't care how many blowjob's you've given your boyfriend or if he goes on top more than you do, as long as you're happy and it's consensual, that's all that matters.





What's your opinion on keeping your sex life private? Agree or disagree?






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22 comments:

  1. I literally am the worst for talking about sex at the inappropriate times, working in a pub for years has done that to me. I like to keep intimate details to myself but really everyone does it so I don't see any issue talking about it! X

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    1. Aww I didn't realise you worked in a pub Kayleigh?! That's fair enough babe x

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  2. I’m actually a person that doesn’t talk about sex too often apart from my boyfriend and my really close girl friends! I still get slightly embarrassed talking about it but I don’t know why! X

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    1. I'm glad it isn't just me that feels the same way! x

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  3. I'm not one to talk about sex much, I do believe it to be a private thing between me and the person I'm with.
    But if I do talk about it with other people I don't get as embarrassed as I used to because it IS a natural thing which everyone does!!

    You look stunning in your pictures Lucy, wish I had your boobs!

    Olivia | www.heylittletulip.wordpress.com

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    1. That's a good point Olivia! Haha thank you! x

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  4. I definitely think talking about sex is a private thing, between your partner and maybe SOME of your friends, but I grew up talking about it a LOT because it was such a taboo thing! I grew up Catholic and sex before marriage is a big no-no, so the more people told us not to do it, the more classmates did and the more we talked about it. But I love how some people are so open about their experiences and sharing things like mutual pleasure and consent. Those are things that should definitely be talked about more! Maybe not by me. I've gotten even more shy as I've gotten older! lol.

    Emily | www.thatweirdgirllife.com

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    1. I do like that people are so open about it, but it's not the way I would go about things! I love that even though it was such a taboo subject growing up, you still talked about it! x

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  5. I think it's totally up to the individual but the individual needs to be aware of what their friends are comfortable hearing. Just because they're comfortable talking about their sex life, doesn't mean a friend feels comfortable listening to it! x

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    1. You're absolutely right Jenny! Just because one person may be comfortable talking about it, it doesn't mean the other person feels comfortable listening to it! x

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  6. Such an intimate post and well done for opening up about it beaut ♥
    Luke | http://www.lukeheywoodstyle.co.uk

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  7. I'm with you on this one! I'm comfortable talking about sex as a general subject but I never really talk about my own personal situations other than with maybe one or two really close friends. However, I do really admire people like that woman on This Morning! Definitely an area which should be left to the individual to decide how comfortable they are x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. I'm exactly the same Sophie, I don't mind talking about sex in general, just not about my own intimate details, except with a few close friends. The woman on This Morning was just priceless, she was so funny! x

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  8. I completely agree. I also keep my sex life to myself! Everyone's different I understood but that's just me lol. Great post.

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    1. Everyone is different but I'm like you, I keep my sex life to myself!

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  9. Loved reading your thoughts on this! I couldn't help but laugh at the cocky gobshites in year 8 bit as it's so bloody true! 😂 I'm kind of on the fence with this one, while I think there's definitely some stuff that should be kept private, some of the funniest chats I've had with my friends have been around sex. I think as long as you're both comfortable bringing the subject up it's fine - although it's definitely something for close friends only! X

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    1. Yeah that's fair enough Amy! I think with close friends it's definitely ok! x

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  10. I've got no idea why it's so taboo! I happily discuss sex openly. Obv there is a time and a place and I think your audience is quite important too as some people just aren't OK with talking about it but to me, it's a natural thing. Nothing to be embarrassed about xx

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  11. I keep my sex life to myself for the most part! But I don’t mind talking about sex in general, it’s nothing bad and should be spoken about openly x

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    1. It is a natural thing to do after all Lauren! x

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